Sex and Intimacy Coaching

There was a season in our marriage where Brittney and I had become very good at keeping score. Not dramatically — but in the quiet, accumulated way most couples do it. The scorekeeping felt fair. That was the insidious part. And the more equitable we tried to be, the more transactional our relationship became. Here's what we discovered — and what the research actually supports.

Every year Brittney and I have a version of the same conversation — an honest check-in about where we are and what our intimate life actually needs. The 2026 State of Intimacy Report is essentially a large-scale version of that conversation. Here's what it reveals and what it means for Nashville couples navigating the same terrain.

If you've found this page by searching for sex therapy in Nashville, you're already doing something most people never do — you're taking this part of your life seriously enough to look for help. What happens next matters enormously. Here's what I want to tell you honestly, as someone who works in this space: sex therapy and intimacy coaching are not the same thing. And understanding the difference could save you significant time, money, and frustration.

When Brittney and I hit year seven and decided to get intentional about our intimate life, we didn't go to therapy. Nothing about where we were called for it. We weren't in crisis — we were two people in a good marriage who had let one of its most important dimensions go flat. What we needed wasn't healing. It was building. And those are two very different things.

Most Nashville professionals who come to intimacy coaching are not in crisis. They are functioning, capable, often visibly successful people who have quietly reached the conclusion that the most important dimension of their lives has been running on autopilot for too long. This is their story.

Something happens in the first session that I've come to think of as the most honest moment in the entire coaching relationship. The intake form is done. We've moved past the pleasantries. And then I ask the question that almost no one has ever been asked before in quite this way. Here's what it is — and what your answer might reveal.

You've built the career. You've hit the goals. On paper, life looks exactly the way you planned it. And yet there's this quiet, persistent feeling that something in your most intimate relationship isn't keeping pace. This pattern — success on the outside, disconnection underneath — is one of the most common and least-talked-about dynamics I see in coaching.

When most people first hear the words "sex and intimacy coach," their brain fills in a version of this work that is either too clinical, too edgy, or too vague to feel relevant to their actual life. Both pictures are wrong. Here's what this work actually is — and whether it might be right for you.

There's a version of this story I could tell that sounds clean and inevitable. That version would be easier to write. It would also be a lie. The truth is I came to this work through a gap — not a crisis, just the quiet, persistent sense that something important was being left unlived. Here's what that reckoning looked like, and why it led me to this work.