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Sex and Intimacy Coaching


The 80/80 Marriage: Why Keeping Score Is Killing Your Intimate Life
There was a season in our marriage where Brittney and I had become very good at keeping score. Not dramatically — but in the quiet, accumulated way most couples do it. The scorekeeping felt fair. That was the insidious part. And the more equitable we tried to be, the more transactional our relationship became. Here's what we discovered — and what the research actually supports.

Scott Schwertly
May 46 min read


What the 2026 State of Intimacy Report Means for Nashville Couples
Every year Brittney and I have a version of the same conversation — an honest check-in about where we are and what our intimate life actually needs. The 2026 State of Intimacy Report is essentially a large-scale version of that conversation. Here's what it reveals and what it means for Nashville couples navigating the same terrain.

Scott Schwertly
May 45 min read


Looking for Sex Therapy in Nashville? Here's What You Actually Need to Know
If you've found this page by searching for sex therapy in Nashville, you're already doing something most people never do — you're taking this part of your life seriously enough to look for help. What happens next matters enormously. Here's what I want to tell you honestly, as someone who works in this space: sex therapy and intimacy coaching are not the same thing. And understanding the difference could save you significant time, money, and frustration.

Scott Schwertly
May 25 min read


Why Nashville Couples Are Choosing Intimacy Coaching Over Couples Therapy
When Brittney and I hit year seven and decided to get intentional about our intimate life, we didn't go to therapy. Nothing about where we were called for it. We weren't in crisis — we were two people in a good marriage who had let one of its most important dimensions go flat. What we needed wasn't healing. It was building. And those are two very different things.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 306 min read


Why Nashville Professionals Are Quietly Seeking Intimacy Coaching
Most Nashville professionals who come to intimacy coaching are not in crisis. They are functioning, capable, often visibly successful people who have quietly reached the conclusion that the most important dimension of their lives has been running on autopilot for too long. This is their story.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 275 min read


The Question I Ask Every New Coaching Client
Something happens in the first session that I've come to think of as the most honest moment in the entire coaching relationship. The intake form is done. We've moved past the pleasantries. And then I ask the question that almost no one has ever been asked before in quite this way. Here's what it is — and what your answer might reveal.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 266 min read


The Intimacy Gap: Why High-Achieving People Often Have the Lowest Emotional and Sexual Connection
You've built the career. You've hit the goals. On paper, life looks exactly the way you planned it. And yet there's this quiet, persistent feeling that something in your most intimate relationship isn't keeping pace. This pattern — success on the outside, disconnection underneath — is one of the most common and least-talked-about dynamics I see in coaching.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 265 min read


What Intimacy Coaching Actually Is (And Isn't)
When most people first hear the words "sex and intimacy coach," their brain fills in a version of this work that is either too clinical, too edgy, or too vague to feel relevant to their actual life. Both pictures are wrong. Here's what this work actually is — and whether it might be right for you.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 256 min read


Why I Became a Sex and Intimacy Coach (And What I Had to Admit First)
There's a version of this story I could tell that sounds clean and inevitable. That version would be easier to write. It would also be a lie. The truth is I came to this work through a gap — not a crisis, just the quiet, persistent sense that something important was being left unlived. Here's what that reckoning looked like, and why it led me to this work.

Scott Schwertly
Apr 246 min read
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